How do you develop mental toughness?- TOUGH TIMES GOES, ONLY THE TOUGH MAN REMAINS , That is the “ PHILOSOPHY ”
How do you develop mental toughness?-
TOUGH TIMES GOES, ONLY THE TOUGH MAN REMAINS , .........................
Toughness is some thing, it is a word
which means that the entity who is TOUGH cannot be broken so easily.
It is said
that TOUGH TIMES GOES, ONLY THE TOUGH MAN REMAINS .
This adage is
TRUE and this is the adage that the MILITARY especially the MILITARY of INDIA
follws to tune the mental toughness of their personnel especially who go
upfront to quash and smash the enemy. The mental toughness is thus the mental
input in terms of the toughness which turns into brevity of a human being.
Pic :: The " PHILOSOPHY " Of The Four " C's " Of Mental Toughness
Still what are
the sign of a person , maybe a man or a woman those are tough. What makes them TOUGH
? . How do you experience somebody who is TOUGH.
Possessing a
well structed and a well built body is NEVER the case of being TOUGH and NOT by
any sense. Toughness and TOUGH are different from being considered or assumed
that the STRONGEST man available on the earth is the most TOUGH person.NO and
NEVER.
TOUGHNESS
IS A QUALITY WHICH A HUMAN BEING POSSESSES TO FACE AND WARD OFF ANY CHALLENGE
THAT HE FACES IN THE MOST DYING CONDITION THAT HE IS INTO AND COMES OUT OF THE
SAME, “ VICTOR” .
Readily , and
accepting the fact, the ELEPHANT is the most STRONGEST
living being on the EARTH but no sooner that an ANT
gets into it’s TUSK, the elephant is as GOOD as DEAD
.
That
is the TOUGHNESS of the ANT and that is the WEAKEST of all the STRONGEST
species that is found roaming on the earth.
Let us discuss
what constitutes a TOUGH element and how it is so very DIFFERENT that we talk
about and think about being TOUGH.
Infact this
article is all about and it revolves about – HOW DO WE MAKE OURSELF VERY……………..
“ TOUGH ”
One by one the
examples that I have seen and watched many adopting this is what has made them TOUGH
and that is what we call it TOUGHNESS .
These are the emulating examples which could be mustered to become tough even from this day if you are NOT tough
1). Laugh at your self.
This
is one of the most unusual and one of the most HARDEST act to perform, and that
is to LAUGH at ourself. For anything that you do , if you do something good and
great for the appreciation that you receive for the same, LAUGH at your success
as many would NOT like to laugh at it. However YOU are a CHAMPION of CHAMPIONS
if you know to LAUGH at your failure. Those laugh at your FAILURE will keep
your MENTAL BALANCE at the right place and will energise you to fall back to
the failure, learn from the failures and then to correct it for you to have a
GREAT victory. It is imperative that one learns to laugh at himself. IT IS THE “ MEDICINE ” of a GREAT success.
Do
NOT fell shy to express yourself if you are confident that you are correct to
explain yourself. There may be many an ambiguity that arises and that you might
have to face.These may be created by the others and by you to face them. Make it a point to express yourself
correctly and precisely.
REMEMBER- A PERSON WHO SPEAK APPROPRIATELY,
CORRECTLY AND PRECISELY IS ALWAYS ADMIRED AT THE BACK AND APPRECIATED, NOT NECESSARILY
THAT HE IS APPRECIATED ON THE FACE.
Never
be shy to put your own views and thoughts to anybody. For if you are right and
correct, you will NEVER be let down by anybody for the same.
Expressions
and expressiveness are to be done by the words , and by the MOUTH. NEVER IN THE ACTION .
Your
thoughts are NO GOOD however it may be good if you cannot explain it in words
either by your mouth or by your writings. Good thoughts are the HIMALAYAS for
something great to be created about that and for something very good to happen.
PLEASE- make it a POINT to express your thoughts in words or by writing to make
something WONDERFUL out of the same.
THIS IS THE GRAVEST AND THE
WORST ACT THAT A HUMAN BEING MAKES AND AT THE LAST HE FALLS INTO THE TRAPS OF
THE DEATH THAT HE CREATES.
Never
mind you, NEVER- NEVER be attached EMOTIONALLY to the extent of say an OCEAN
which is so attached to the SEAS to make it a Ocean without which it would not at all survive as
an Ocean.
The
TOUGHEST human being is he who even if he is amidst all his near and the dear
one’s is NOT that EMOTIONALLY attached to anybody yet he makes every body
believe that he is very much in connection and is in attachment to everybody
who encircles him.
“ TOO MUCH OF AN ATTACHMENT TO ANYTHING
WILL MAKE YOU THE WEAKEST PERSON IN THE WORLD ” .
Learn
to say a “ PLEASING – NO ” to the situation which will keep you
safe of many an unsavoured moment that may arise in the FUTURE for you to find
that you had dinged to dig your GRAVE then when you had to say NO and you said OK, weal, we will and definitely will see .
For anything and everything DO NOT GET OFFENDED EASILY. Those
who are easily OFFENDED are the WEAKEST people available on the earth. They
can be easily played upon and could be toppled very easily as OFFEND more often
than not leads to WEAKNESS and the uncontrollable mind and the body makes one
to easily fall into the trap of defeat
from which one finds it very HARD to come out of the same.
Remember- there is a saying – “ LET GO ” .
To be frank this LET GO attitude of the TATAS have made them so
very loyal to everybody and the others
are so very LOYAL to them that even if the TATAS pack a bag of shit and sell it
in the MARKET the people blindly buy it believing it is the SHIT-OF-THE-CAKES
that the TATA are selling and that it definitely is a product worth buying. People who cannot let it GO are the people who
are left much behind and far behind in their life .
LET IT GO FOR MANY A OTHER GOOD THINGS TO COME TO YOU.
DO NOT ACCEPT ANYTHING
WITHOUT A WELL BALANCED NEGOTIATION .
Remember nothing will you get anything for FREE and nothing will
anyone give you for FREE. However NEVER take anything unless and until you are
sure about the utmost good quality of that particular thing.
You can know the real worth and the utmost valuable quality of a
good or a bad thing only if you open your eye and after looking into it,
NEGOTIATE upon it for the quality that it possesses and the quantity that it
could BRING to you in terms of SURPLUS
and SATISFACTION.
If you are a POOR negotiator BLAME yourself for the losses that
you have suffered. NEVER try to accommodate those which are inferior to you and
that does not suits you either in terms of your quality or in terms of your
standing.
However BIG somebody be, what what he is IF YOU THINK THAT AFTER
NEGOTIATION YOU ARE NOT FINDING HIM OR
IT TO YOUR OWN LIKING AND TO YOUR OWN CHOICE AS WELL, LEARN TO PART AWAY WITH
IT.
“ A HUMAN BEING IS NOT A “ MAGNET
” WHERE THE LIKE POLES REPELS AND THE UNLIKE POLES ATTRACTS ” .
The HUMAN PSYCHOLOGY is that the LIKE POLE ATTRACTS and the
UNLIKE POLES REPELS .This is because for the human being the TWOmagnets are the
EYE and the HEART and as it is THE EYE IS THE MOST “ DUPE ” OF THE HEART.
Argument could be unending. Those who prepare for it well with
all the fcats and the relevant figures with well laid out examples are the ONE’S
who really keep on winning everything for them inspite of osing at many a
times. The BEST and the GLARING example was Mr Atal Behari Vajapayee. His arguments
were so well structured and so well laid with many and the best of the examples
with his POWER of expressions that he made FRIENDS and FRIENDS in all the
corners and the NOOKS of the same with his arguments which everybody would
HONOUR it with so much of acceptance and with so much of the HEART. That is the reason he could pull a
Government which was pulled and carried by that many a HORSES when he wa the
Prime Minister of the country.
Remember- to win any argument you ought to have the SOLID
reasoning as well as the FACTS guarding you and covering it well and up to the
point. These ought to be so strong, VALID and to the point that it should be
accepted by the HEART by everybody and only then you are a VICTOR.
It is NO POINT to keep on arguing for the reason of ARGUING just
like the Congress and the COMMUNIST keep on doing it and repeating it. That
makes it FALLIBLE and you are not given
any space then.
If you want to win at every occasion LEARN how to argue with a
CLEAR vision and with a full understanding that your points of argument would
help you to WIN always. NEVER LOOSE ON ANY ARGUMENT because if you loose it you
would be losing a huge space for yourself.
PREPARE very well for an argument, argue with a COOL bent of
mind and WORDS and put your point in a manner which is VALID and respected by
everybody.
YOU WILL BE A HERO FOR EVER
AND FOR ALL.
Aptitude
is THE NATURAL ABILITY or as
we call it the SKILL .
It
is simple. If you an aptitude or the skill use it to solve your own problems
first and you would never be short of the ideas to solve the other problem or
the other’s problem that you may encounter to solve it. Most of the people who
have FAILED in their LIFE inspite of earning so much of the WEALTH is that THEY
COULD NOT SOLVE EITHER THEIR OWN PROBLEMS OR THE PROBLEMS WHO THE OTHERS FACED
WHILE ASSOCIATING THEMSELVES WITH HIM.
Skill
can be made more effective by adding so much of shine to the skill and that it
only done by solving the problems which
the other faces them and which you face while associating yourself with them.
Expertise is the REPITITION of the job you do again and again
without any fault occurring and ADDING
the other jobs that you have NOT performed earlier to do it again and again to
gain the perfect precision and perfection so as to do it very precisely when
needed to expeditie the same.
The GREATEST example of EXPERTISE is the RISING of the SUN
everyday without any mistake and again when the sun SETS in the evening again
without any mistake.
The CLOUD at times halts the sunrays to fall on the earth but
the sun cuts through the clouds at last to make it’s presence feel .That is
what is the EXPERTISE .
You would be a MASTER in one of your chosen field. That is your
domain. Just put yourself to know more and more about that field in which you
possess a MASTERY and the experience over the years that you gain in that field
.Explore that field to it’s BEST for you to know and learn everything about it
and MUG the field That would
make you an EXPERT in that field.
Keep your body and your mind in the proper shape and in the
proper place always and for that you ought to shape yourself physically.
While punishing yourself physically , ie , while performing the
physical exercise remember DO NOT PUNISH yourself and your BODY at all. Infact
physical exercise is to TONE your body. It is an exercise to tighten your
muscles and NOT to allow any unwanted flesh to add to your body. The PLASTICITY
and the ELASTICITY of the nerves, veins and the muscle should be such that if
those are stretched, the body would bear it and there would be no pain that would
occur in the body.The essence of all the physical training is to see that the
muscles remain TIGHT and in proper place. That exudes the STRENGTH that the
body deivers when doing any job.
A good toned body automatically develops a BRAIN which become
strong to work more and produce more. That of course is supplemented by a
nourishing diet. This is a MIX by which the body and the brain develops and
that is why the physical strength is needed by the body to develop the brain as
well as the structure of the body.
11). Meditation and calmness
develop a stronger mind.
SIMPLY MEDITATE . Pump in the FRESH and the EVER FRESH OXYGEN
while meditating. That TUNES and changes the internal energy of the BODY which
makes the body so ACTIVE and FRESH which in turn tones the mind and the body .Develop a HABIT to
remain CALM. That composes the brain, the MIND and the BODY.
“ A COMPOSED BODY COMPOSES
EVERYTHING FOR ITSELF AND FOR IT’S SUCCESS ”
People with SO MUCH of TALENT, BRAIN and KNOWLEDGE just COULD
NOT be successful in their LIFE because they NEVER were COMPOSED at all .
RASHNESS IS THE “ ETERNITY ” OF THE FOOLS RESIDING IN THE PARADISE .
Somebody once had remarked- IS IT THE BRAIN IN THE DRAIN OR“ BRAIN-DRAIN ”
Well ARROGANCE and EGO always results in BRAIN DRAIN and then
the stage becomes that IT IS A “BRAIN-IN-THE-DRAIN ” .
Never be an EGOIST and NEVER be ARROGANT for anything. Listen to
all what the people have to say and take your own decision of accepting it or
rejecting it.
REJECTION- MIND YOU OUGHT TO BE LAWFUL AND WITHIN THE
CONSTITUTION.
13). Test your patience.
The OTHERS
will keep you TESTING and
will keep your PATIENCE
testing if you do not have the capacity to TEST-YOUR-OWN-PATIENCE.
Purposely create a WORST situation for you just to TEST your own
patience . For example DELIBRATELY start your job a bit late by ONE-HOUR
everyday and work very fast to make the TIME and COME UP to the time required
to fall into the PLACE and the PACE that needs for the job to be completed.
This will TEST you. Working at a RAPID PACE without committing
any ERROR will help you to make a precision of yourself and to horne the
principles and the action of PERFECTION .If you attain the perfection and if
you could fall into the place racing with the time at last while perorming your
act- YOU HAVE TESTED ALL YOUR
PATIENCE AND NO BODY WOULD BE ABLE TO TEST YOUR PATIENCE AND PLAY WITH IT.
Simply DISPLAYING “ PATIENCE ” as and like Mahendra Singh Dhoni
displays it NEVER makes anybody a PILLAR of patience.
UNDER THAT PATIENCE, LIKE THE ONE’S , LIKE “ DHONI ” , IS THE THAT WE TERMS IT A “ MYSTERY ” of CUNNINGNESS that it holds.
14). Test your will power.
For every worst situation that you face- IF YOU COME OUT OF IT
WITHOUT CAUSING A SHRIEK TO THE
OTHERS, MIND YOU , YOU HAVE ADDED STRENGTH BY INFINITY TO YOUR POWER OF BEARING
THE SITUATION AND THAT IS THE ADDED STRENGTH TO YOUR WILL POWER.
A will power becomes STRONG and alters itself into
the STRONGEST
only if you can bear it , all by
yourself, ENDURE the PAIN coming out of the same and not causing any alarms
for anybody to feel the SHREIK of the same.
STRONGEST ARE THE PEOPLE
WHO ARE ALONE TO FIGHT ALL FOR THEMSELVES, ALONE AND BUILD A CASTLE
OF POWER
AND STRENGTH ALL AOLNE. This
are the one’s who have a HIMALAYA
of WILL POWER to bear it and
make it all ALONE .
15). Fake people help you to be a
better version of yourself.
From my PERSONAL and PRACTICAL experience, and the REALITY that
I did face in my LIFE, BELIEVE ME- IF YOU REALLY WANT TO BE A BETTER VERSION OF
YOURSELF JUST KEEP THE FAKE PEOPLE AROUND YOU
“ YOU WOULD BECOME THE MODERN “
VERSION ” OF SWAMI VIVEKANANDA WHEN IT WOULD BOIL TO YOUR KNOWLEDGE AND THE EXPERIENCE
THAT YOU HAVE MUSTERED” .
16). Never think to give up your
dream.
We live with some hopes and those hopes in the later stage goes
on to form our dream. Never fail to achieve your dream.
Dreams are not easily achieved and a LOT of deep rooted effort
and the job that is very hard to do are needed to convert that dream into a
reality but never give up on the dreams.
It takes time and at
times it takes more than a age ot and for the dream to get realized but dreams
do turn into a reality when we relentlessly work to achieve it. WORK lest you
achieve your PET DREAM.
17). Challenge yourself at every
stage of life.
If you wish to raise your BAR, THROW an OPEN CHALLENGE to
yourself and with DEEP ROOTED EFFORT just work on it to achieve it.
You would NOT only become a GREAT VERSION of a GRAND CHANGE for
the BEST to come for you but you would realize that you have started changing
the things if not the WORLD for you .This is what will lead you to achieve
something , if not many a things, in a MIRACULOUS manner.
18). Never show off in front of your Junior's.
Remember- A SENIOR IS
THE REPETATIVE ACT OF SUCCESSIVE JUNIOR.
Never TRY to SHOW OFF in front of a JUNIOR. These JUNIORS of the
present times are your SENIOR , mind you. You will grow in age for being the Senior, but these JUNIORS will grow by age as well as in EXPERIENCE, the TWO-EDGED-SHARP-RAZOR as weld and as we call them and call it ,
Remember that when you move up and leave many behind, when the turns, and the step turns down and the hills bring you low, and at the BOTTOM , you ought to cross the path of these Juniors. You would be accepted in the same FASHION and in the same manner
that you acted then to the Juniors. That will decide the issue ,
once for all for you.
Just the other day I wrote an article on the CELEBRATION of the Indian Navy Day. I shall lay an example for the SUNDRIES to read it.
Learn to respect the uniform:
Do they Make Such Senior Officers Anymore? Lieutenant Raj Choudhry (later Rear Admiral) was at Palam Airport, New Delhi to receive Admiral B R Singh. Raj was in uniform. The staff car driver was a civilian. The car, a vulnerable Ambassador, refused to start and had to be push-started. Raj requested the Admiral, who was in civvies, ie the civil dress , to man the wheel while he and the driver pushed. The Admiral directed Raj to sit at the wheel, while he and the driver pushed the car. He chided Raj, "I will not have the public seeing a uniformed officer pushing a car with a man in civilian clothes sitting at the wheel. They don't know that I am a Admiral. But they know you are a naval officer. Young man, never let down the uniform." Raj was speechless. Some officers are worth dying for!
This is how you have to lay an example and ACT when you are amidst the Juniors for them to LEARN and MAKE as well as MOULD themselves.
19). Be confident and dominant.
Confidence to some extent is
GOOD but OVERCONFIDENCE is a SLOW POISON which when starts reacting FAST, “
KILLS” you.
Be confident of yourself and allow your confidence to get over
the others. That will help the others also to grasp and learn many good things
from you and that would make you a POPULAR element to everybody.
Dominate only on those matter on which you have been showered
and entrusted to dominate for some specific purpose.
Useless domination or dominating act coupled with OVERCONFIDENCE
is the way to the GALLOWS for the DEATH and it’s STRING to HANG you.
20). Improve your decision making
the skill
Take your own time to reach to an conclusion within the frame
and the TIME-LIMIT that has been set for you.
Within that time arrive at an conclusion and that actually is
the DECISION that you have made out of the conclusive report and the act . That
is the DECISION that you would be making for yourself over and for an issue .
99% ( Ninety Nine Percent ) of the decision you make will make
you to be a SUCCESSFUL human being or a FAILURE.
It totally depends upon what CHOICE you have and what are the
people that you would like to fall upon to take their advice on which you would
make a decision.
Mind you- the ULTIMATELY CHOICE in this matter would be YOURS
and the DECISION finally would be yours.
Everytime one might not be in a position to give his BEST
opinions to you for making a decision. It is IMPERATIVE that you have and you
possess the skill to make the best decision for yourself.
HENCE GRADE YOURSELF, SCALE YOURSELF TO IMPROVE YOUR DECISION
MAKING SKILL as you are the Master OF YOURSELF for everything and it is your
OWN-DECISION-MAKING-SKILL that will decide your fate and your future for every
good things to happen to you.
Your decision ought to benefit you though it maybe a wrong
decision that you have taken it for and in the eye for the others but at last
if your own decision gives you the BEST OF THE RESULT AND THE SATISFACTION – YOU
HAVE MADE IT FOR YOU TO BE A VICTOR FOR YOURSELF.
Well That is it .
Regards and Thanks
Pics
Mr Shyamal
Bhattacharjee, the author was born at West Chirimiri Colliery at
District Surguja, Chattisgarh on July 6th 1959 He
received his early education at Carmel Convent School Bishrampur
and later at Christ Church Boys' Higher Secondary School at
Jabalpur. He later joined Hislop College at Nagpur and
completed his graduation in Science and he also added a degree
in B A thereafter. He joined the HITAVADA,
a leading dailies of Central India at Nagpur
as a Sub-Editor ( Sports ) but
gave up to complete his MBA in 1984 He thereafter
added a Diploma In Export Management. He has authored THREE books
namely Notable Quotes and Noble Thought published by Pustak
Mahal in 2001 Indian Cricket : Faces That Changed It
published by Manas Publications in 2009 and Essential Of Office
Management published by NBCA, Kolkatta in 2012. He has a
experience of about 35 years in Marketing
Signature of Shyamal
Bhattacharjee
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Off I went out with my toughness. Handled this bouncer pretty good I guess. Just got back to the crease to face the next delivery of life.
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