How do you develop mental toughness?- TOUGH TIMES GOES, ONLY THE TOUGH MAN REMAINS , That is the “ PHILOSOPHY ”






Pic:: A Picture Of Mental Toughness,The " NERVY "  Brain Shattering The Hard Iron Ball 

How do you develop mental toughness?- 

TOUGH TIMES GOES, ONLY THE TOUGH MAN REMAINS , .........................

That is the “ PHILOSOPHY ”

Toughness is some thing, it is a word which means that the entity who is TOUGH cannot be broken so easily.

It is said that TOUGH TIMES GOES, ONLY THE TOUGH MAN REMAINS .

This adage is TRUE and this is the adage that the MILITARY especially the MILITARY of INDIA follws to tune the mental toughness of their personnel especially who go upfront to quash and smash the enemy. The mental toughness is thus the mental input in terms of the toughness which turns into brevity of a human being.



Pic :: The " PHILOSOPHY " Of The   Four " C's " Of Mental Toughness 

Still what are the sign of a person , maybe a man or a woman those are tough. What makes them TOUGH ? . How do you experience somebody who is TOUGH.

Possessing a well structed and a well built body is NEVER the case of being TOUGH and NOT by any sense. Toughness and TOUGH are different from being considered or assumed that the STRONGEST man available on the earth is the most TOUGH person.NO and NEVER.

TOUGHNESS IS A QUALITY WHICH A HUMAN BEING POSSESSES TO FACE AND WARD OFF ANY CHALLENGE THAT HE FACES IN THE MOST DYING CONDITION THAT HE IS INTO AND COMES OUT OF THE SAME, “ VICTOR” .

Readily , and accepting the fact, the ELEPHANT is the most STRONGEST living being on the EARTH but no sooner that an ANT gets into it’s TUSK, the elephant is as GOOD as DEAD .

That is the TOUGHNESS of the ANT and that is the WEAKEST of all the STRONGEST species that is found roaming on the earth.

Let us discuss what constitutes a TOUGH element and how it is so very DIFFERENT that we talk about and think about being TOUGH.

Infact this article is all about and it revolves about – HOW DO WE MAKE OURSELF VERY…………….. “ TOUGH ”

One by one the examples that I have seen and watched many adopting this is what has made them TOUGH and that is what we call it TOUGHNESS .

These are the emulating examples which could be mustered to become tough even from this day if you are NOT tough

1). Laugh at your self.

This is one of the most unusual and one of the most HARDEST act to perform, and that is to LAUGH at ourself. For anything that you do , if you do something good and great for the appreciation that you receive for the same, LAUGH at your success as many would NOT like to laugh at it. However YOU are a CHAMPION of CHAMPIONS if you know to LAUGH at your failure. Those laugh at your FAILURE will keep your MENTAL BALANCE at the right place and will energise you to fall back to the failure, learn from the failures and then to correct it for you to have a GREAT victory. It is imperative that one learns to laugh at himself. IT IS THE “ MEDICINE ” of a GREAT success.


 2). Don’t feel shy.


Do NOT fell shy to express yourself if you are confident that you are correct to explain yourself. There may be many an ambiguity that arises and that you might have to face.These may be created by the others and by you to  face them. Make it a point to express yourself correctly and precisely.

 REMEMBER- A PERSON WHO SPEAK APPROPRIATELY, CORRECTLY AND PRECISELY IS ALWAYS ADMIRED AT THE BACK AND APPRECIATED, NOT NECESSARILY THAT HE IS APPRECIATED ON THE FACE.

Never be shy to put your own views and thoughts to anybody. For if you are right and correct, you will NEVER be let down by anybody for the same.


 3). Try to express yourself in words, not in thoughts.


Expressions and expressiveness are to be done by the words , and by the MOUTH. NEVER IN THE ACTION .

Your thoughts are NO GOOD however it may be good if you cannot explain it in words either by your mouth or by your writings. Good thoughts are the HIMALAYAS for something great to be created about that and for something very good to happen. PLEASE- make it a POINT to express your thoughts in words or by writing to make something WONDERFUL out of the same.


 4). Don’t get too attached emotionally to anyone.

 

THIS IS THE GRAVEST AND THE WORST ACT THAT A HUMAN BEING MAKES AND AT THE LAST HE FALLS INTO THE TRAPS OF THE DEATH THAT HE CREATES.

Never mind you, NEVER- NEVER be attached EMOTIONALLY to the extent of say an OCEAN which is so attached to the SEAS to make it a Ocean  without which it would not at all survive as an Ocean.

The TOUGHEST human being is he who even if he is amidst all his near and the dear one’s is NOT that EMOTIONALLY attached to anybody yet he makes every body believe that he is very much in connection and is in attachment to everybody who encircles him.

 TOO MUCH OF AN ATTACHMENT TO ANYTHING WILL MAKE YOU THE WEAKEST PERSON IN THE WORLD ” .

 

Learn to say a “ PLEASING – NO ” to the situation which will keep you safe of many an unsavoured moment that may arise in the FUTURE for you to find that you had dinged to dig  your GRAVE then when you had to say NO and you said OK, weal, we will and definitely  will see .


 5). Don’t offend too easily.


For anything and everything DO NOT GET OFFENDED EASILY. Those who are easily OFFENDED are the WEAKEST people available on the earth. They can be easily played upon and could be toppled very easily as OFFEND more often than not leads to WEAKNESS and the uncontrollable mind and the body makes one to  easily fall into the trap of defeat from which one finds it very HARD to come out of the same.

Remember- there is a saying – “ LET GO ” .

To be frank this LET GO attitude of the TATAS have made them so very  loyal to everybody and the others are so very LOYAL to them that even if the TATAS pack a bag of shit and sell it in the MARKET the people blindly buy it believing it is the SHIT-OF-THE-CAKES that the TATA are selling and that it definitely is a product worth buying.  People who cannot let it GO are the people who are left much behind and far behind in their life .

LET IT GO FOR MANY A OTHER GOOD THINGS TO COME TO YOU.


 6). Negotiate as much as you can.


DO NOT ACCEPT ANYTHING WITHOUT A WELL BALANCED NEGOTIATION .

Remember nothing will you get anything for FREE and nothing will anyone give you for FREE. However NEVER take anything unless and until you are sure about the utmost good quality of that particular thing.

You can know the real worth and the utmost valuable quality of a good or a bad thing only if you open your eye and after looking into it, NEGOTIATE upon it for the quality that it possesses and the quantity that it could BRING to you in terms of  SURPLUS and SATISFACTION.

If you are a POOR negotiator BLAME yourself for the losses that you have suffered. NEVER try to accommodate those which are inferior to you and that does not suits you either in terms of your quality or in terms of your standing.

However BIG somebody be, what what he is IF YOU THINK THAT AFTER NEGOTIATION YOU ARE NOT FINDING HIM  OR IT TO YOUR OWN LIKING AND TO YOUR OWN CHOICE AS WELL, LEARN TO PART AWAY WITH IT.

 “ A HUMAN BEING IS NOT A “ MAGNET ” WHERE THE LIKE POLES REPELS AND THE UNLIKE POLES ATTRACTS ” .

The HUMAN PSYCHOLOGY is that the LIKE POLE ATTRACTS and the UNLIKE POLES REPELS .This is because for the human being the TWOmagnets are the EYE and the HEART and as it is THE EYE IS  THE MOST “ DUPE ”  OF THE HEART.


 7). Never lose any arguments.


Argument could be unending. Those who prepare for it well with all the fcats and the relevant figures with well laid out examples are the ONE’S who really keep on winning everything for them inspite of osing at many a times. The BEST and the GLARING example was Mr Atal Behari Vajapayee. His arguments were so well structured and so well laid with many and the best of the examples with his POWER of expressions that he made FRIENDS and FRIENDS in all the corners and the NOOKS of the same with his arguments which everybody would HONOUR it with so much of acceptance and with so much of  the HEART. That is the reason he could pull a Government which was pulled and carried by that many a HORSES when he wa the Prime Minister of the country.

Remember- to win any argument you ought to have the SOLID reasoning as well as the FACTS guarding you and covering it well and up to the point. These ought to be so strong, VALID and to the point that it should be accepted by the HEART by everybody and only then you are a VICTOR.

It is NO POINT to keep on arguing for the reason of ARGUING just like the Congress and the COMMUNIST keep on doing it and repeating it. That makes it FALLIBLE  and you are not given any space then.

If you want to win at every occasion LEARN how to argue with a CLEAR vision and with a full understanding that your points of argument would help you to WIN always. NEVER LOOSE ON ANY ARGUMENT because if you loose it you would be losing a huge space for yourself.

PREPARE  very well for an argument, argue with a COOL bent of mind and WORDS and put your point in a manner which is VALID and respected by everybody.

YOU WILL BE A HERO FOR EVER AND FOR ALL.


 8). Solve aptitude and reasoning.


Aptitude is THE NATURAL ABILITY or as we call it the SKILL .

It is simple. If you an aptitude or the skill use it to solve your own problems first and you would never be short of the ideas to solve the other problem or the other’s problem that you may encounter to solve it. Most of the people who have FAILED in their LIFE inspite of earning so much of the WEALTH is that THEY COULD NOT SOLVE EITHER THEIR OWN PROBLEMS OR THE PROBLEMS WHO THE OTHERS FACED WHILE ASSOCIATING THEMSELVES WITH HIM.

Skill can be made more effective by adding so much of shine to the skill and that it only done by  solving the problems which the other faces them and which you face while associating yourself with them.


 9). Become an expert in your domain.


Expertise is the REPITITION of the job you do again and again without any fault occurring and  ADDING the other jobs that you have NOT performed earlier to do it again and again to gain the perfect precision and perfection so as to do it very precisely when needed to expeditie the same.

The GREATEST example of EXPERTISE is the RISING of the SUN everyday without any mistake and again when the sun SETS in the evening again without any mistake.

The CLOUD at times halts the sunrays to fall on the earth but the sun cuts through the clouds at last to make it’s presence feel .That is what is the EXPERTISE .

You would be a MASTER in one of your chosen field. That is your domain. Just put yourself to know more and more about that field in which you possess a MASTERY and the experience over the years that you gain in that field .Explore that field to it’s BEST for you to know and learn everything about it and MUG the field That would make you an EXPERT in that field.


 10). Physical strength also helps to develop mental strength so exercise daily.


Keep your body and your mind in the proper shape and in the proper place always and for that you ought to shape yourself physically.

While punishing yourself physically , ie , while performing the physical exercise remember DO NOT PUNISH yourself and your BODY at all. Infact physical exercise is to TONE your body. It is an exercise to tighten your muscles and NOT to allow any unwanted flesh to add to your body. The PLASTICITY and the ELASTICITY of the nerves, veins and the muscle should be such that if those are stretched, the body would bear it and there would be no pain that would occur in the body.The essence of all the physical training is to see that the muscles remain TIGHT and in proper place. That exudes the STRENGTH that the body deivers when doing any job.

A good toned body automatically develops a BRAIN which become strong to work more and produce more. That of course is supplemented by a nourishing diet. This is a MIX by which the body and the brain develops and that is why the physical strength is needed by the body to develop the brain as well as the structure of the body.


11). Meditation and calmness develop a stronger mind.


SIMPLY MEDITATE . Pump in the FRESH and the EVER FRESH OXYGEN while meditating. That TUNES and changes the internal energy of the BODY which makes the body so ACTIVE and FRESH which in turn  tones the mind and the body .Develop a HABIT to remain CALM. That composes the brain, the MIND and the BODY.

“ A COMPOSED BODY COMPOSES EVERYTHING FOR ITSELF AND FOR IT’S SUCCESS ”

People with SO MUCH of TALENT, BRAIN and KNOWLEDGE just COULD NOT be successful in their LIFE because they NEVER were COMPOSED at all .

RASHNESS IS THE “ ETERNITY ”  OF THE FOOLS RESIDING IN THE PARADISE .


 12). Arrogant and EGO cause brain drain.


Somebody once had remarked- IS IT THE BRAIN IN THE DRAIN OR“ BRAIN-DRAIN ”

Well ARROGANCE and EGO always results in BRAIN DRAIN and then the stage becomes that IT IS A “BRAIN-IN-THE-DRAIN ” .

Never be an EGOIST and NEVER be ARROGANT for anything. Listen to all what the people have to say and take your own decision of accepting it or rejecting it.

REJECTION- MIND YOU OUGHT TO BE LAWFUL AND WITHIN THE CONSTITUTION.


13). Test your patience.


The OTHERS will keep you TESTING and will keep your PATIENCE testing if you do not have the capacity to TEST-YOUR-OWN-PATIENCE.

Purposely create a WORST situation for you just to TEST your own patience . For example DELIBRATELY start your job a bit late by ONE-HOUR everyday and work very fast to make the TIME and COME UP to the time required to fall into the PLACE and the PACE that needs for the job to be completed.

This will TEST you. Working at a RAPID PACE without committing any ERROR will help you to make a precision of yourself and to horne the principles and the action of PERFECTION .If you attain the perfection and if you could fall into the place racing with the time at last while perorming your act- YOU HAVE TESTED ALL YOUR PATIENCE AND NO BODY WOULD BE ABLE TO TEST YOUR PATIENCE AND PLAY WITH IT.

Simply DISPLAYING “ PATIENCE ” as and like Mahendra Singh Dhoni displays it NEVER makes anybody a PILLAR of patience.

UNDER THAT PATIENCE, LIKE THE ONE’S , LIKE “ DHONI ”  , IS THE  THAT WE TERMS IT A “ MYSTERY ”  of CUNNINGNESS that it holds.  


14). Test your will power.


For every worst situation that you face- IF YOU COME OUT OF IT WITHOUT CAUSING A SHRIEK  TO THE OTHERS, MIND YOU , YOU HAVE ADDED STRENGTH BY INFINITY TO YOUR POWER OF BEARING THE SITUATION AND THAT IS THE ADDED STRENGTH TO YOUR WILL POWER.

A will power becomes STRONG and alters itself into the STRONGEST  only if you can bear it , all by yourself, ENDURE the PAIN coming out of the same and not causing any alarms for anybody to feel the SHREIK of the same.

 STRONGEST ARE THE PEOPLE WHO ARE ALONE TO FIGHT ALL FOR THEMSELVES, ALONE AND BUILD A CASTLE OF POWER AND STRENGTH ALL AOLNE. This are the one’s who have a HIMALAYA of WILL POWER to bear it and make it all ALONE .


15). Fake people help you to be a better version of yourself.


From my PERSONAL and PRACTICAL experience, and the REALITY that I did face in my LIFE, BELIEVE ME- IF YOU REALLY WANT TO BE A BETTER VERSION OF YOURSELF JUST KEEP THE FAKE PEOPLE AROUND YOU

 “ YOU WOULD BECOME THE MODERN “ VERSION ” OF SWAMI VIVEKANANDA WHEN IT WOULD BOIL TO YOUR KNOWLEDGE AND THE EXPERIENCE THAT YOU HAVE MUSTERED” .


16). Never think to give up your dream.


We live with some hopes and those hopes in the later stage goes on to form our dream. Never fail to achieve your dream.

Dreams are not easily achieved and a LOT of deep rooted effort and the job that is very hard to do are needed to convert that dream into a reality but never give up on the dreams.

It takes  time and at times it takes more than a age ot and for the dream to get realized but dreams do turn into a reality when we relentlessly work to achieve it. WORK lest you achieve your PET DREAM.


17). Challenge yourself at every stage of life.


If you wish to raise your BAR, THROW an OPEN CHALLENGE to yourself and with DEEP ROOTED EFFORT just work on it to achieve it.

You would NOT only become a GREAT VERSION of a GRAND CHANGE for the BEST to come for you but you would realize that you have started changing the things if not the WORLD for you .This is what will lead you to achieve something , if not many a things, in a MIRACULOUS manner.


18). Never show off in front of your Junior's.


Remember- A SENIOR IS THE REPETATIVE ACT OF  SUCCESSIVE JUNIOR.

Never TRY to SHOW OFF in front of a JUNIOR. These JUNIORS of the present times are your SENIOR , mind you. You will grow in age for being the Senior, but these JUNIORS will grow by age as well as in EXPERIENCE, the TWO-EDGED-SHARP-RAZOR as weld and as we  call them and call it , 

Remember that when you move up and leave many behind, when the  turns, and the step turns down and the hills bring you low,  and at the BOTTOM , you ought to cross the path  of  these Juniors. You would be accepted in the same FASHION and in the same manner that  you acted then  to the Juniors. That will decide the issue , once for all for you.

 Just the other day I wrote an article on the CELEBRATION of the Indian Navy Day. I shall lay an example for the SUNDRIES to read it.


Learn to respect the uniform:

Do they Make Such Senior Officers Anymore? Lieutenant Raj Choudhry (later Rear Admiral) was at Palam Airport, New Delhi to receive Admiral B R Singh. Raj was in uniform. The staff car driver was a civilian. The car, a vulnerable Ambassador, refused to start and had to be push-started. Raj requested the Admiral, who was in civvies, ie the civil dress , to man the wheel while he and the driver pushed. The Admiral directed Raj to sit at the wheel, while he and the driver pushed the car. He chided Raj, "I will not have the public seeing a uniformed officer pushing a car with a man in civilian clothes sitting at the wheel. They don't know that I am a Admiral. But they know you are a naval officer. Young man, never let down the uniform." Raj was speechless. Some officers are worth dying for!


This is how you have to lay an example and ACT when you are amidst the Juniors for them to LEARN and MAKE as well as MOULD themselves.


19). Be confident and dominant.


Confidence to some extent is GOOD but OVERCONFIDENCE is a SLOW POISON which when starts reacting FAST, “ KILLS” you.

Be confident of yourself and allow your confidence to get over the others. That will help the others also to grasp and learn many good things from you and that would make you a POPULAR element to everybody.

Dominate only on those matter on which you have been showered and entrusted to dominate for some specific purpose.

Useless domination or dominating act coupled with OVERCONFIDENCE is the way to the GALLOWS for the DEATH and it’s STRING to HANG you.


20). Improve your decision making the skill


Take your own time to reach to an conclusion within the frame and the TIME-LIMIT that has been set for you.

Within that time arrive at an conclusion and that actually is the DECISION that you have made out of the conclusive report and the act . That is the DECISION that you would be making for yourself over and for an issue .

99% ( Ninety Nine Percent ) of the decision you make will make you to be a SUCCESSFUL human being or a FAILURE.

It totally depends upon what CHOICE you have and what are the people that you would like to fall upon to take their advice on which you would make a decision.

Mind you- the ULTIMATELY CHOICE in this matter would be YOURS and the DECISION finally would be yours.

Everytime one might not be in a position to give his BEST opinions to you for making a decision. It is IMPERATIVE that you have and you possess the skill to make the best decision for yourself.

HENCE GRADE YOURSELF, SCALE YOURSELF TO IMPROVE YOUR DECISION MAKING SKILL as you are the Master OF YOURSELF for everything and it is your OWN-DECISION-MAKING-SKILL that will decide your fate and your future for every good things to happen to you.

Your decision ought to benefit you though it maybe a wrong decision that you have taken it for and in the eye for the others but at last if your own decision gives you the BEST OF THE RESULT AND THE SATISFACTION – YOU HAVE MADE IT FOR YOU TO BE A VICTOR FOR YOURSELF.

 

Well That is it .

Regards and Thanks

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 Shyamal Bhattacharjee 

Mr Shyamal Bhattacharjee, the author was born at West Chirimiri Colliery at District Surguja, Chattisgarh on July 6th 1959 He received his early education at Carmel Convent School Bishrampur and later at Christ Church Boys' Higher Secondary School at Jabalpur. He later joined Hislop College at Nagpur and completed his graduation in Science and he also added a degree in    B A thereafter. He joined the HITAVADA, a leading dailies of Central India at Nagpur as a      Sub-Editor ( Sports ) but gave up to complete his MBA in 1984 He thereafter added a Diploma In Export Management. He has authored THREE books namely Notable Quotes and Noble Thought published by Pustak Mahal in 2001 Indian Cricket : Faces That Changed It  published by Manas Publications in 2009 and Essential Of Office Management published by NBCA, Kolkatta  in 2012. He has a experience of about 35 years in Marketing

 


 


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  1. Off I went out with my toughness. Handled this bouncer pretty good I guess. Just got back to the crease to face the next delivery of life.

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